This blog was formerly dedicated in 2009 to my Dad who died of Alzheimer's in 2013. It's been three years now...and I find myself missing I am re-inventing my blog... because, after all, life is about moving through, and going forward...

Thursday, July 22, 2010

To Let Go...

I invite your feed back on this poem and how you interpret it. 

I read it, thinking of varying relationships I have, and it applies to each one, although, each relationship is so different.

I am not sure I can apply this to my Dad...I admit, I feel very protective of him...


"To let go doesn't mean to stop caring;
It means I can't do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off....
It's the realization that I can't control another.....

To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try and change or blame another,
I can only change myself.

To let go is not to care for, but to care about.

To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own outcomes.

To let go is not to be protective,
It is to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny, but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment.

To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more."

**** I found this poem on  It is a website for Caregivers
for Dementia.  There was no author listed, so I do not know who to give credit
for this incredible poem of wisdom, love, understanding and compassion.  ****


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Mari said...

Wow - that's an amazing poem! It shows that there are many ways to let go, and that letting go doesn't mean you don't care. I think in many ways you can apply it to your Dad. You have let go of any expectations of what you may get from him, you have let go of expectations of what he says or does, and yet you still love him lots! Often letting go takes more love than holding on!

Debra She Who Seeks said...

It's a great poem. Everyone can relate to it, I'm sure, because everyone has control issues!

Jo said...

"To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences."
That is the most perfect lesson we can pass on to anyone we love.

Anonymous said...

I echo Debra - everyone can relate to this in some way.
Great poem!


septembermom said...

Very powerfully written and expressed. I felt so many of these feelings just before my dad passed away. I can still remember looking at my dad's picture late one night and kind of letting him go. I was crying as I said the words. It's hard when you feel so helpless. Hugs to you!