This blog was formerly dedicated in 2009 to my Dad who died of Alzheimer's in 2013. It's been three years now...and I find myself missing blogging...so I am re-inventing my blog... because, after all, life is about moving through, and going forward...

Saturday, July 10, 2010

Dad Is NOT a Happy Camper...

Mom went to visit Dad.  Not good.  He was full of complaints.

No one comes to visit him.
The food is terrible and making him sick.
Worried about the boys being in a gun battle.
He hears gun shots all the time.
His Angel, Doctor-Doctor is gone. (Today is her day off.)
He misses his "Goldilocks" (Doctor-Doctor)
He wanted Mom to bring him a nice dress shirt, dress pants, tie and shoes...
He wants to take his "beloved" (not Mom) out on a date.
He needs a car.
He going to get a sales job so he can have some money.

Just as they brought him his lunch, he told Mom to take him back to his room.

Not a good visit.  Mom was all shook up.

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Later tonight, Dad called Mom at home to continue his rant...

She barely said "Hello..." and Dad was blasting her with both barrels!!

"GET DOWN HERE RIGHT NOW AND PICK ME UP!!!!!!!"

"I NEED MY CLOTHES, ID, AND SOME MONEY!!!!"

"I AM SICK AND I NEED HELP!"

"I WANT YOU TO CALL OUR LAWYER AND GET ME OUT OF HERE!!"

Mom attempted to tell him they did not have a lawyer....

"ARE YOU LOSING YOUR MIND!? YOU DON'T KNOW WHO OUR LAWYER IS??!!"

That is all Mom mentioned in her email...but Dad said plenty more, so it must have been extremely traumatic for Mom.

Mom told Dad she would call the lawyer...and then called the station nurse.  She confirmed Dad was fine other than he had been very agitated all day.  (Yet again, I did not receive a phone call. I told the nurses to put a big note on Dad's chart to CALL ME if Dad acts up or is upset...)

Mom was so upset, she told the nurse NOT TO ALLOW him to call her any more because she gets too upset.

I will call them tomorrow to tell them to have Dad call me.

6 comments:

welcome to my world of poetry said...

It's very sad when one parent becomes so unwell, especially for the wife/husband.. I do feel for your mother she must be under considerable strain and of course it's not good for her health, I hope you can lighten the load for her and help dad. I hope all goes a little better for you all.

Take care.
Yvonne.

Mari said...

All in all, it was a crummy day for your family yesterday. I hope your Dad has a better day today!

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

I'm so sorry that you dad and mom have had a tough time of it. I hope that they understand the need to call you and not your mom when your dad is agitated. The phone is in his room? Hope today is a better day for him.

That corgi :) said...

so sorry for you all Donna! your poor mom (and all of you)

betty

gayle said...

After all these months I don't understand why they are not calling you!! I am so sorry that your dad is feeling this way. Hopefully he will be in a better mood soon. It must be worring you being so far away!!

LTM said...

SO hard--thoughts and prayers are with you. tough, tough times. :o(