The Skin Angel was just beginning to treat Dad's big toe. She is very concerned with his lack of circulation in his left foot. She suggested we take Dad to the vascular surgeon he used to see before being admitted to the nursing home. I know the vascular surgeon will ask why Dad is not wearing his compression stockings. When I took him to his appointments, he would always stress the importance of putting them on Dad BEFORE he even stepped out of bed, and only when he retired to bed for the night, should we remove them.
Dad hates to wear them and gets very agitated when the staff try to put them on his legs. Mom and the majority felt it was not worth upsetting him. I worry it may lead to amputation. I know that would be devastating to Dad, as well as the rest of us who love him...
She also discussed Dad drinking more water with Mom. Again, we all know this, encourage him at every visit...but Dad fights it because "what goes in, must come out" and I don't think he will ever completely adjust to having the staff change his pants. She also told Mom Dad has a rash around his "privates".
God, some times I don't know which is worse, lingering away your health and dignity in a nursing home or dying suddenly without a chance to say good bye...Despite the excellent care Dad receives, I think I prefer the fast exit...
Mom wheeled Dad into the dining room to await his lunch. Several of the "regulars" were there, and walked or wheeled their way over to Mom and Dad to visit. One white haired lady asked Mom if she knew her. Mom smiled and told her she had seen and talked with her before. The lady smiled and seemed happy. One of Mom's favorites, wheeled himself over and grabbed the white haired Lady's left hand. They held hands and talked softly to one another while Mom listened to Dad tell her he was thinking of re-enlisting in the Marines...
Dad told Mom he needed cash for some trips he has planned. He keeps talking of getting a job in sales.
Mom told Dad both he and she had earned their retirement and he should just relax and enjoy it.
When the CNA brought the lunch trays, the gentleman still doing the hand holding with the white haired lady, began to complain loudly about the "same ol' food being served here every day". Oblivious, Dad complimented the food as he stuffed his face with a meat burrito, salsa, green beans and Spanish rice. He told Mom how much the food had improved. Meanwhile, in between cuss words, and never letting go of his white haired lady's hand, the older gentleman had cleaned his plate.
Mom showed Dad a bowl of fresh oranges and bananas, which he reached for, smacking his lips with anticipation. While Dad was drinking his coffee, "nice and hot and good", Mom mixed his ice cream in his second glass of milk, just the way he likes it and he drank it right down. We all marvel how Dad never gets "brain freeze".
Mom shared some family news telling Dad about talking with his sister. Dad looked a bit confused as if he was trying to put a face to her name. Then, as if it came into focus, Dad said he was sure she was busy watching her grand children. When Mom reminded Dad her grand children were all grown up, Dad looked at Mom with a strange expression.
The CNA put on a video of various "oldies but goodies" tunes and everyone was tapping their feet and singing along.
Mom said it was a great visit.
One of the nurses called Mom around dinner time. She wanted to know if we would mind moving Dad back across the hall to the room he used to have. Mom told her it was fine, as long as it was OK with Dad. I think Dad will enjoy the extra room and being near the window.