This blog was formerly dedicated in 2009 to my Dad who died of Alzheimer's in 2013. It's been three years now...and I find myself missing I am re-inventing my blog... because, after all, life is about moving through, and going forward...

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Stress Management...

I spoke with Dad this morning.  His voice was so soft I could barely hear him.  I had to keep asking him to put the phone closer to his mouth.  His voice was very garbled, so maybe he was tired.  He knew he had eaten breakfast.  I asked how Doctor-Doctor was, and I could hear him smile as he told me "she is wonderful!".

He sounded very tired so it was a short conversation.  I told him I was coming to see him very soon with lots of hugs and kisses.  That make him smile again.  I told him I loved him, and he told me he loves me too....
I hung up and I always worry when he sounds the way he did...time with him is so very precious....


I usually post stuff like this on my other blog, , but I decided to share it on this one...

****I did not write this, I received it in an email.  I researched it and it appears to be written by the modest and elusive author, Unknown Anonymous.****

A lecturer, while explaining Stress Management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked :

"How heavy is this glass of water?"

Answers called out ranged from 20mg to 500mg. The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."

He continued, "And that's the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on. As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden. So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don't carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can.

So, my friend, why not take a while to just simply RELAX.

Put down anything that may be a burden to you right now.

Don't pick it up again until after you've rested a while.

Life is short.

Enjoy it!"

Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life:

* Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue.

* Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.

* Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

* Drive carefully. It's not only cars that can be recalled by their maker.

* If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

* If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it

* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.

* Never buy a car you can't push.

* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time,
because then you won't have a leg to stand on.

* Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance.

* Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.

* The second mouse gets the cheese.

* When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.

* Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.

* You may be only one person in the world,
but you may also be the world to one person.

* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.

* We could learn a lot from crayons...Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.

*A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.


Marylinn Kelly said...

Donna, I somehow missed wishing you Happy Birthday on the day, so please accept belated greetings, heartfelt, I assure you. As to your postings, our minds seem to be running side by side...the letting-go of the unneeded for its stress - or pure uselessness - factor is my theme today. And I will add, once we set it down, do we really have to pick it up again? xoxo

That corgi :) said...

I liked that story about the glass of water and leaving our burdens behind us. also all those thoughts at the end of your entry were good too Donna. It is so hard in this day and age with so much going on to truly take that to heart, but it is so much better when we let go and let God and trust in him. It is also hard when our parents age and know that the time is getting closer and closer when they won't be with us. both my parents are gone, but my hubby's parents are both in failing health and it is wrecking havoc on him with all that is going on with them. I'm encouraging him to spend as much time as he can with them.


Donna B said...

Marylinn: Oh thank you my dear friend for the b'day wishes in the after glow, it still means so much. I will be over to visit soon.

betty (corgi): By all means, letting go and trusting God is a definite priority. I believe God gave us the ability to change our focus to allow Him to show us a better way. I have passed this on before, but one of my greatest centering phrases is: Lord, please keep me in your Spirit and fill me with your peace. Depending on how stressed out your husband is, it may have to be repeated a few times. Said sincerely from his inner spirit, he will feel immediate relief, peace and calm.

We lose our earthly parents and we feel like orphans until we realize the Lord gave us our parents, because He is such a loving Father and we are His children.

Some times men have a difficult time spending time with dying parents, because they have always "been there".

Help him search out everything from keeping him from spending precious time with them. In the end, he does not want to have regrets.

Blessings to you both...I speak from experience and understand it is heart wrenching. It is emotional torture watching a loved one suffer. I know you will be there for him...

Laoch of Chicago said...

That letter is very likable.

Marguerite said...

Hi Donna, It's so nice to meet you! Happy Birthday, a little late! Lovely blog and post! Love all the great quotes. Thanks for stopping by my blog and for the follow!