This blog was formerly dedicated in 2009 to my Dad who died of Alzheimer's in 2013. It's been three years now...and I find myself missing blogging...so I am re-inventing my blog... because, after all, life is about moving through, and going forward...

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Mom and Dad...

Mom went to visit Dad after she got off work.  He was being cleaned up and dressed when she arrived.  Dad was asking for Doctor-Doctor (his Angel) and Mom told him she needed a day off.  Dad agreed.  Dad was laughing happily as the aide rolled him back and forth from side to side, as he got Dad dressed.

Mom wheeled Dad out onto the patio.  She said it was a beautiful, sunny day and it was very peaceful.  Dad rambled on about negative and dangerous things, then suddenly asked Mom about my second oldest brother's jewelry store.  Dad had asked Mom this the last time she came to visit.  Dad thought their son was very smart to have that kind of business.  Dad went on to say how much he enjoyed watching TV at night.  Mom realized that Dad may be referring to a jewelry store advertisement and the name of the business is the same name as my brother...she asked Dad if he had seen the advertisement on TV and Dad confirmed that he had.

Dad admired Mom and told her several times how beautiful she was.  I guess he made some sexual comments to her, which Mom would not repeat or answer.  She felt embarrassed.  Mom said Dad laughed wildly.  She changed the subject the best she could...

About a half hour later, Dad was beginning to close his eyes and fall asleep.  Mom asked if he was tired and wanted to go to his bed to rest.  Dad agreed, so she wheeled him in and the Aide helped Dad into bed, getting him all comfy cozy.

Dad asked Mom for some gum.  She didn't have any, but promised to bring some to him next time.  She got him a full pitcher of ice cold water and poured him a glass.  He drank it down and thanked her.  Mom asked if he has been drinking his water, and he reported he wasn't.  She reminded him to drink lots of water to avoid urinary tract infections.  Dad looked at her and smiled his biggest smile.  I'm sure he knew on some level how Mom was looking out for him. 

Mom said Dad would probably not pour his own water as his hands are very shaky.  She kissed Dad good bye and left as he dozed off to dream...

When Mom got home, she found Medi-Cal paperwork.  Apparently we have to re-apply each year.  Mom was surprised, as we all were.  We were not told that last June.  Mom still has not received her refund from the deposit she paid the first month we applied!  Mom said she was copying everything again, so my brother (with the fantasy jewelry store) can submit the paperwork again.

While Mom was here in Nevada, the same brother and his wife, surprised Mom by painting her entire living room, donating her old couch and bringing in a new love seat and couch for her.  What a thrilling surprise for her...
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Stay tuned...will be posting pics and posts from our weekend soon...

5 comments:

Mari said...

Isn't it interesting how things from tv blend with real life?
What a nice thing your brother and wife did for your mom!

Jeanie said...

It sound like that was all in all a pretty nice visit. What a nice thing for your brother to do.

Debra She Who Seeks said...

If I had a fantasy jewellry store, I'd give everybody fantasy diamond rings and necklaces!

GutsyWriter said...

I can feel the love between your parents shine through your writing. It made me think of how I would cope if my husband was in that situation later in life. The things we take for granted today.

gayle said...

This visit that your mom had with your dad sounds so wonderful!! I am sure she left with such a good feeling!! It sounds to me like you have a awesome family...what a nice surprise for your mom...a new room!!