I went to sleep watching TOUCHED BY AN ANGEL marathon episodes and woke up to a phone call from Dad at the nursing home.
"No, this is Donna... Hi Dad..."
"Where are you?"
"Then you are no help to me...I can't get a hold of your Mother or anyone."
"Mom is probably in church... wh---"
"I have an emergency. This is important. I can't take a taxi because I don't have any money."
"What's wrong Da--"
"I NEED SOMEONE TO COME PICK ME UP FROM THIS HOSPITAL RIGHT NOW!!"
"I am NOT going to discuss this over the phone. I want to go to (gave the address of the house where Mom lives) or to anyone in the family's home. I have an EMERGENCY! DO YOU HEAR ME?"
"Yes, Dad, yes...I will call..."
"NO ONE IS HOME!!!"
"OK, Dad...I will hang up and do my best to get ahold of someone in the family.... but I have a private line, it is safe, you can talk to me. What happened?"
" DON'T ASK ME THESE QUESTIONS! I TOLD YOU I CANNOT DISCUSS IT OVER THE PHONE!!! I AM GOING TO CALL A TAXI!"
"Calm down Dad... I'll call... I will work on it and call you back...."I lov----"
I had to gather my wits... was I awake or did I have a nightmare about Dad? He has not done this in such a long time... it brought back horrible flashbacks when he first went into the hospital and called me to come pick him up....
I called the nursing home and spoke with the charge nurse. Dad was calm cool and collected, until he was put back in bed at 8:30 am to elevate his feet. He even had all the student nurses fussing over him. Apparently, he told them he wanted to speak to his wife. They called Mom, who did not answer as she was in church... Then, they called my cell, (didn't hear it) and then the house phone, which was right by my bed.
After our phone call, I guess he was agitated and yelled and screamed for a few minutes before apologizing profusely to everyone and not wanting to discuss it anymore... The nurse assured me Dad was fine and was in the activity room for church services.
Relieved, but still rattled, I hoped hearing the words of the Lord would calm him down...
I left Mom a message, spoke with my youngest brother and my sister. I wrote a family email to everyone.
During the day I have made calls every couple of hours to check on Dad and they keep telling me he is resting or in activities and doing fine...
Mom called around 3:30 PM and said she had a message from Dad at 2:30 PM. His message said he had a cold and needed to come home to take care of himself... I told her I would call and check on Dad again...
I talked at length with the male nurse who spends so much time with Dad. I have to remember it is more emotional and difficult for us, than it is for Dad. Some times Dad's short time memory is in tact and some times not. Same with his long term memory. It's all part of this crazy war dance of Alzheimer's/Dementia.
Personally, I feel guilt because he sounded so alert, but so upset. None of us want him to live in a nursing home, but he has to. We can not give him the 24 hour care he needs. It is so emotionally draining for all of us, especially when Dad tells us he wants to come home.
I will call Dad tomorrow, acting like nothing happened and hope for the best. I will be grateful these phone calls do not happen every day...