Mom went to visit Dad today...the parking lot was jam packed with no available parking, but the front of the nursing home was wide open. Suspicious, Mom checked for signs and painted curbs... She checked with the receptionist to make sure it was OK to park in front and was told the street sweeper had cleaned the streets earlier in the morning so maybe that was why there was parking right in front, curbside...
When Mom found Dad waiting for lunch she told him she was worried about getting a ticket...
"Don't worry, I am very wealthy. I will take care of it so no problem..."
Mom thanked him and smiled...
"I own Chicago you know..."
"Wow!" Mom did her best to sound impressed...
(Dad must have thought she said something else because he got angry...)
"Yes I do! I own Chicago...it is my town!" (Dad was born there).
Mom told him she knew and told him how impressed she was...
After her louder explanation, Dad roared with laughter.
Mom told him how spiffy he looked with his new hair cut...
"Thank you, I look forward to seeing your smiling face."
She told him she was happy to see him so happy... and Dad laughed joyfully in return.
"I want to buy a little Fiat like M_____ (my brother in law) for running around town..."
Mom smiled broadly and nodded her head in agreement...
His delicious Italian lunch was served by Dad's male CNA; lasagna, garlic toast, fresh veggies, green salad, strawberry ice cream and a piece of lemon cake, milk and coffee. Mom said it looked and smelled very yummy.
Dad inhaled his lunch, not only because he has a great appetite, but he LOVES Italian food.
Dad announced to Mom, "I don't really like cake very much..."
But Dad ate most of it, leaving just a few bites...normally there is not too much Dad does not like...and sweets are one of them! Mom told Dad she would give his compliments to the chef on her way out...
Mom said Dad began chatting about all the hot women and how much he loves being around them...kind of going off on a tangent... so Mom changed the subject, asking him if he had seen the football game over the weekend...
Dad was yawning and looking tired, so she called the CNA to tuck Dad in bed for his nap and she complimented the chef and checked with the nurses making sure they are monitoring Dad from being taken off his Lexipro... The charge nurse said there was nothing indicating any problems in Dad's chart, but she would check with the CNAs.
My brother E_____ had a short visit with Dad last Wednesday...some times my brothers visit, but are not big on sharing their visit with everyone...
He noticed Dad's eye and foot did not look good. Dad's eye is an ongoing issue as is the wound on his baby toe. Dad also has gout which swells up every now and then... As long as Dad is not in pain, we have decided not to stress him out with any aggressive treatment other than ointments and local treatments.
He said Dad was in a happy, joyful mood and was glad to see him. My brother took him outside to talk but Dad got too cold and they had to go inside. He helped Dad eat his lunch, helping Dad by feeding him, which Dad enjoyed.
I talked with the charge nurse and she told me Dad had lost 8 lbs in one week so they will be giving him more supplements and ice cream for dessert. This seems to be an up and down thing... Dad loses weight and then gains it back...
5 comments:
Donna, you all handle your dad's fantasies, changes in subjects, his care with such grace and humor. I know, you can say that it goes with the territory and how there isn't much choice, but in your heart of hearts, you know better.
There can only be this sort of love, kindness and humor because there is love.And I know there are heart-rending times, but I just LOVE reading about these visits.
Your mom... Well. You know how I feel.
I am glad your Mom had a good visit. So your Dad owns Chicago... Now I know you to go to is I ever decide to visit.
Hope you are having a great New Year.
Pamela Jo
I always enjoy hearing about the visits with your Dad. I kind of feel like I know him from reading this. He's such a likable guy!
Bless that sweet man and your family too.
You will be blessed beyond belief, dear, for taking care of thy father who took care of you when you were young (not to mention the Father in Heaven who will reward you after your demise). How I’d looove to kiss your feets and cuddle with you after I brushed my teeth in Heaven. The question becomes: will I need to? HawrHawr Truly, I love you, miss gorgeous, and I don't wanna spend my eternity Upstairs without you. God bless you.
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