This blog was formerly dedicated in 2009 to my Dad who died of Alzheimer's in 2013. It's been three years now...and I find myself missing blogging...so I am re-inventing my blog... because, after all, life is about moving through, and going forward...

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Dad went on a rampage...

Mom got a phone call from the nursing home.  The nurse said Dad was upset and being un-co-operative. Dad got on the phone and yelled at Mom, telling her they were all cheaters.  He could not find doctor-doctor (his Angel), and sounding like he was crying.  He told her he loved his Angel and wanted to marry her. 

Mom tried to change the subject asking about his visit with my sister yesterday.  He yelled  at her again telling her he did not want to talk to her anymore, saying she did not understand, and hung up.

Mom called the nursing home back and spoke with the charge nurse.  She told Mom they were dispensing medication, and Dad was refusing to take his. The nurse reassured Mom they would try again.  Mom is upset and afraid they will send him back to the Psych Ward.

When I got Mom's email, once again, I was upset they did not call me first.  THIS IS ONE MAJOR ISSUE I INTEND TO DISCUSS AT THE CARE CONFERENCE!!! I called the nursing home after reading Mom's email. The nurse told me she was just getting ready to call Mom again. Dad was so upset, they had him in his wheel chair, sitting in front of the nursing station, to keep an eye on him. Dad stood up suddenly from his wheel chair, lost his balance and fell. His head hit the counter of the nursing station and cut him above his eyebrow. It bled, but they had stopped the bleeding.  She had called his primary doctor and would be putting him on antibiotics for the next fourteen days.  I reminded her I am to be the first contact and she told me it said "next of kin" on his chart.  I told her to put me as first contact.  WHAT IS IT WITH THESE PEOPLE!!??


I just called the nursing home back at 9pm and Dad is sleeping comfortably. I spoke with a different charge nurse, so she related the entire story to me again.  She explained the reason they called Mom first, was because Dad had demanded to speak to his wife.  Of course, they had to call Mom first.  She told me shortly after he cut his forehead, he calmed down. He cooperated and took his medication.  He ate dinner and gave them no further problems. I told her Dad refers to his Angel as doctor-doctor.  She said that is why he may have gotten so upset, because they thought he meant his primary care doctor.  She promised she would make a notation for the staff.

Thank God he is calmed down and OK...

7 comments:

Mari said...

Aaagh! I can't imagine how frustrating this is for you. The whole calling thing keeps happening and it seems that as much as he talks about his angel, or Doctor, doctor that they would know who that is too.
I'm really sorry and I hope the conference will be helpful.

Wander to the Wayside said...

I got chills reading this and almost cried, because it brought an immediate and strong memory back to me of getting those calls from the nursing home that my dad had hit someone giving him a shower, or him having them call me and then he would scream at me for stealing his money. I can fully understand why you would want to shield your mom from stuff like that! Glad he settled down, but it is so frustrating and scarey when they have those incidents.

I hope you and the nursing home get on the same page with the notifications! And you'd think that all of them would know by now what he calls his favorite aide, wouldn't you?

Jeanie said...

How difficult for both your mom and you to have to hear these things by phone and e-mail. It does sound as though they are good about how they deal with your dad and good that he finally calmed down.

Marylinn Kelly said...

Donna, Thank you for sharing your award with me. I neglected to visit this blog as I was checking on your other one. What I can do is send love to you and all your family, for this sounds like some days are so disheartening and unpredictable. I trust you know how much strength and courage it takes just to go through such a week. xoxo

Donna B said...

Thank you Mari, Linda, Jeanie and Marylinn...I answered you each personally via email.

VKT said...

I can't even imagine what you and your Mom are going through. Bless your heart!

gayle said...

You must have been so mad!! I don't know why they can just call you first no matter what!! Hopefully you can get that straight!! They also should be writing notes daily! Please don't be afraid to speak up and demand that they do what they are suppose to do! My heart is with you!