Mom went to visit Dad yesterday. She anticipated finding him in the dining room for lunch, but Dad was still in bed. Apparently he wanted to return to bed after his shower. One of the nurses brought Mom a chair and sat her on the window side of Dad's bed. Dad was snoring away...(must have been napping after my phone call to him.) The nurse woke Dad and told him his wife was there...
Mom noticed Dad was having difficulty turning his head to face Mom, but there was someone attending to one of Dad's two room mates, so Mom was forced to stay where she was.
Dad's lunch arrived which looked delicious...chicken, mashed potatoes, gravy, green peas, angel food cake, strawberry ice cream and milk. Dad ate about half his food. One of the care takers brought in Dad's supplemental milk shake and Dad gulped it down.
As soon as Dad finished his lunch, he accused Mom of having affairs. Mom assured Dad he was the only man in her life and he did not have to worry... but he was obsessed with the topic of sex and the more Mom attempted to change the subject, the more graphic he became...
Dad warned Mom he could control her from his sleep to prevent her from having affairs. He told her about his women and then more graphic propositions and ideas he had on his mind... Dad told Mom he had a protective agency watching her, so she should not try to do anything she would not want to be caught doing. Most of Dad's conversation was with his eyes shut...
After repeated attempts to change the topic of conversation, Mom asked Dad if he was tired. Dad said he was because he could handle things better in his sleep. Mom took the opportunity, said her good byes and left. She was understandably dissatisfied with her visit...
The wound care nurse stopped in to treat Dad's left pinkie toe and Mom warned her to move fast as Dad was going to sleep and may be acting inappropriate and frisky. She is a very sweet Filipino woman who graciously smiled and told Mom not to worry....
Mom told her she hoped Dad would continue without having any discomfort with his foot. As Mom walked into the parking lot, she thought Dad lacked energy, his usual spark and didn't seem to have any interest in anything...other than sex.
3 comments:
I'm sorry to hear of another not so nice visit. Was this the same day as your call? I'm hoping this isn't happening more often than not, plus I don't like that he hasn't been eating well either.
Praying the next visit will be better.
I'm sorry you are going through this extra difficult time in your dad's illness.
Hey there Donna. My sister used to work in an assisted living home, that had an area for those with Alzheimers. She said it was very common for the females to want their mommy or would want a baby doll to carry around. The men, however talked a lot about sex. It embarrases their families, espescialy when the men would never have talked like that before. She said it is very common.
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