This blog was formerly dedicated in 2009 to my Dad who died of Alzheimer's in 2013. It's been three years now...and I find myself missing blogging...so I am re-inventing my blog... because, after all, life is about moving through, and going forward...

Monday, May 3, 2010

The yawn and the short of it....

Mom went to visit Dad today. Mom had brought him a beautiful prayer blanket, made by some church friends.  Dad was sitting in his wheel chair in the hall by the nursing station.  Mom greeted him and showed him the prayer blanket.  Dad smiled, looked at it and told her he had already seen it...

It was such a pretty day, so when one of the male Aides walked up and offered to push Dad's wheel chair out onto the patio, Mom thanked him, but told him she could manage herself.  Dad turned and said "NO! I want to go to my room."

Dad wanted to get into his bed, so the Aide helped him get comfortable.  Mom tried to call me on my cell phone, knowing I had not got a hold of him the day before...Unfortunately, I was vacuuming and washing floors and did not hear the phone...

Mom attempted to chat with Dad, but everything she discussed, Dad told her he had heard about it before... Dad began to tell Mom he was going to be traveling to Mars...Mom was not sure she had heard him correctly, and asked him to repeat what he said.  Dad yawned and shut his eyes.  Mom asked if he was tired.  No answer...Dad was snoring and fast asleep.

Mom informed his Caregiver for the day, Dad was asleep, and asked her to keep an eye on him.  She promised Mom she would.

Shortly after Mom got home, she made herself a nice lunch and sat down to eat.  The phone rang.  It was Medi-Cal.  The caseworker had a thick accent and began talking quickly, giving Mom a list of orders.  Mom had two pages of notes within ten minutes.  The caseworker wanted Mom to open a separate checking account for Dad with no more than $2,000 in it.  Mom explained they had a Trust and the way they did it last year had passed.  The woman hissed at Mom telling her it did not matter and this is what she needs...And she wanted her to fax it to her immediately.

Mom explained she needed her son's help and would need some time.  The caseworker gave her until May 20th and if she had not received the needed paperwork, Dad would no longer be covered by Medi-Cal.

Poor Mom...she is so frazzled.  I will see what I do to help her...

4 comments:

Mari said...

There are so many requirements with the Medicare system. I'm sorry that your Mom has to deal with that.

Laurel said...

That sounds very frustrating for your mom. I've been through the nursing home routine with both my mom and dad - and now dad is living with us - which has helped his cognition greatly. I hope your dad improves, and you get the medi-cal people straightened out - they sound so rude and impossible!

That corgi :) said...

your poor mom; it must be hard to have to deal with the financial things on top of worrying about your dad and making sure he is getting good care. I hope the Medi-Cal thing works itself out; seems to be they could be a little more reasonable with what they need and give a longer time to get the info together

betty

gayle said...

That is terrible for that woman to treat your mom that way. I swear sometimes I want to ask them if the money is coming out of their pockets. At least that's how they act.